Congratulations. You’ve made it through the holiday season. If you’re a mom, then this is a special sort of accomplishment.
Whether you ushered in the season with Santa photos, ice skating, Polar Express train rides, Elf on the Shelf antics, cookie baking, tree trimming and lighting, party planning, present wrapping, New Year’s Eve Netflix countdowns, or a combination of all the above, it’s time you gave yourself a pat on the back…and a break. Surviving is truly half the battle.
I don’t know about you, but I tend to go over the top when it comes to the holiday season. I do too much, try too hard, have at least one breakdown, wish I was doing as well as other moms (thanks a lot, Facebook), realize none of us are perfect parents (thanks @XplodingUnicorn and @ScaryMommy), and then resign to do the best I can.
I actually wrote New Year’s resolutions this year. Here are my top three. I’m willing to bet that they’re on your list as well.
- Find more “me time”
- Actually go on date nights
- Unplug more often
My kids are great and I loved every second of singing Frosty the Snowman at the top of my lungs as we cruised around looking at holiday lights this season, but I also realize that in order to be a good parent I need to give myself permission to not be “mom” for a couple hours. No, not doing things like getting my hair done or taking a bath (this does NOT count as “me time” in my world). Instead, I plan on getting out of the house more with my husband, my friends, and even by myself to reconnect, recharge, and have some fun. Drinks always welcome.
“Me time” doesn’t have to be huge or daunting. It doesn’t have to be a gym membership or an hour a week journaling (although it could be). “Me time” could just as easily be getting out for two hours with some friends or a SO celebrating the small things in life…like the fact that your two year used the potty or that your teenager didn’t shout at you today. Those parenting wins deserve a night out.
So, how do I escape? I spend my “me time” and/or date nights lost in creative tranquility at Paint Nite or Plant Nite. I can express myself, have a couple cocktails, and get my mind off the stressors of parenthood, all while staying local (sometimes mommy duty presents itself swiftly).
Hang in there, mommies. You’re doing a GREAT job.